Modern dating can be really horrible.
I envy those of you who are not participating in today’s modern dating rituals. Talking, but never actually meeting up. Hooking up within the first few dates. Simply swiping left or right for the h*ll of it. Oh and let’s not forget the infamous ghosting trend.
The definition of ghosting via Urban Dictionary: The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date. This is done in hopes that the ghostee will just “get the hint” and leave the subject alone, as opposed to the subject simply telling them he/she is no longer interested. Ghosting is not specific to a certain gender and is closely related to the subject’s maturity and communication skills. Many attempt to justify ghosting as a way to cease dating the ghostee without hurting their feelings, but it in fact proves the subject is thinking more of themselves, as ghosting often creates more confusion for the ghostee than if the subject kindly stated how he/she feels.
I do realize that the act of ‘ghosting’ someone probably existed in some way before this particular term was coined and probably even before digital dating became popular. It’s an unfortunate practice in dating that became popularized by my generation, the Millennials. Thank you to those in my generation for creating stupid trends and practices like this one and making things more difficult for those of us who do not wish to conform.
This is actually the third time I’ve been ghosted. This time around is by the same guy who ghosted me before.
He is infuriating, stupid, immature, d*ck, douche, jerk, *sshole! Why can’t guys my age simply communicate they’re moving on or sh*t happened, etc?? It sucks more to be left hanging, you know! And then there’s the fact you wasted a lot of my time!
Okay, now take a breath in and let it out. And now what will I do? I’M GOING TO MOVE ON.
Clearly, both of us we’re indifferent and not that interested in each other considering I didn’t initiate conversation beyond the one time while the signs starting appearing. In any case, I also don’t want to give my time to someone who will probably ghost me every few months. No thank you.
It sucks that this dating practice is happening all the time and is making dating to find someone worthwhile hard in addition to making me nervous about ever dating again. But then I started thinking, it’s unfair to me and to any of my future dates to let this one guy ruin dating.
So, good riddance to him. As for me, I impulsively downloaded the dating app Bumble last night. Now I have four guys to start conversations with. Which I’m finding out is tough. Kudos to guys who are always starting conversations with girls, no matter the medium.
P.S. Look out for my review of the Bumble app. Plus, a new post idea is headed your way soon!
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Featured image links to It Gets Worse Blog (which seems like a hilarious blog)
Quote picture links to an article on The Refined Woman (their post is cool)
Cartoon picture links to an article on HuffPost Women