I warned you that another dating related post was headed your way. If you read my first If We Were On a Coffee Date post, you would remember me briefly talking about how I impulsively downloaded this app.
I downloaded and signed up with the Bumble app roughly a week ago. I deleted my account and the app last night.
But why? You were only on it for a week!
I know a week is not that long, but let me tell my experience from day one.
After impulsively downloading the app, I got my profile set up; the app takes your basic info and profile pictures from Facebook. Once that is done, it was no surprise that the swiping started.
I mean, the app was created by one of Tinder’s co-founder, so the swipe was almost a given. One of the first things I noticed was that all the guys were very attractive and looked like they had all of their sh*t together.
Similar to Tinder, however, is that the swiping can get addictive and almost turn into a game. I suddenly found myself with seven matches and the reminder that I was the one that had to start a conversation within 24 hours of the match being made. Talk about pressure. And because of that, I took my time looking over profiles and figuring out what to say.
I sent five messages and not one guy responded.
By the beginning of the fourth day, I did a little research and found out that it’s all about sending a message as quick as you can. So, that’s what I did for the next three matches; I sent a message within the first two hours. Which apparently was not fast enough, because I only had one guy respond and it was clear very quickly that it wasn’t going to be a great conversation. By this point I was frustrated, but I also totally understood, because how many messages would I not respond to when I was on OkCupid way back when?
On top of that, all the guys started looking alike: clean cut, muscle, and in a business suit. Oh, and almost every single one had a dog. I don’t know why, but I thought that was very interesting.
By the middle of the fourth day, I was only seeing possible matches from LA, between 25-35 miles away from me. It didn’t take me long to delete the app, knowing that I wasn’t going to get what I wanted from it.
I did like that it gave some of the power to me, especially when it came to how many messages/ conversations I would have to follow. I also didn’t have to worry about constantly getting messages, most that I wouldn’t respond to.
What I didn’t like was simply my personal experience with the app. I think it’s a good idea, though the swiping is a feature that I wish wasn’t a core aspect.
Ultimately, I didn’t want to put the effort into it. I may use it again in the future, but who knows what new dating thing will be out there by then.
Have you used Bumble? A different dating app? What’s your experience?
Here are some articles that I liked regarding the app:
From a male perspective, read this Verily Mag article.
A positive female perspective, in this EliteDaily article.
A slightly more negative perspective in the article ‘Women Lost When Men Bumble’.
And this perspective in a XOJane article where the female ‘felt more depressed than empowered’.