For the past several months, I felt like I was steadily, though slowly, making my way towards my goal of moving to a new city this March (2017). There have been some low moments of allowing myself to overthink things, get worried and anxious. I took a short break around the holidays and now recently have picked up looking for a job again.
It has been very discouraging.
And I am a little more anxious because I told my boss right around the New Year as well as HR about my move. So a very small handful of people know that I am looking to move in the springtime and I will be leaving work.
I so badly want that to happen, but all last week and this weekend I kept thinking about – well – everything. What if I don’t find a job? What if I don’t move until closer to June, when not a lot of companies hire then? What if for some insane reason, I don’t move at all? What about friends? What about finally living on my own?
I am going to chalk this all up to nervousness. I lived with my parents for the first 18 years of my life and then I mostly lived with five of my closest girlfriends in college with some weeks spent by myself in the house during summer.
And true, I would stay with my Aunt for a few months while I get a job (if I don’t already have one) and then settle in to living completely on my own.
I think my biggest contributor to all this stress and anxiety is whether I will actually move when I want to. I haven’t given an actual date of moving just the month of March. I told them I would try and be flexible on when I leave so that with any big projects that I’m working on don’t leave them scrambling. However, I still really want to move in March or at least by the beginning of April, but there’s a big project hitting it’s peak around that time.
I have some people on the one hand telling me that this is a time where I should be more selfish and put myself first rather than the company first. It’s great to be loyal, but at the end of the day everyone is replaceable.
However, I have other people telling me that I do work for a unique company and I shouldn’t just give them an end date and leave it at that. I should ask internally coworker to coworker if they would be interested in my job. If not, then I tell HR and my boss that it might be a good idea to start looking for my replacement.
The next chapter is so close I can almost taste it and it is driving me crazy. I am impatient to start this next step but I feel like I am hitting obstacles every way I turn. I mean I know it’s all about the path and journey, etc. but seriously, does it always have to feel like such a struggle?
I would love to hear from anyone and everyone about their experiences moving, finding a new job, giving notice at work or anything else related.
I found this interesting article from The Atlantic on how young adults are a part of a Go-Nowhere Generation or are called Generation Stuck: Generation Stuck: Why Don’t Young People Move, Anymore?
There were two additional posts on the reasons why young adults are moving and why some are not.