Obviously I’m a huge reader, a book nerd. If you’ve been reading my blog since last summer, then you also know that I’ve been serious about dating and ultimately finding someone to call a partner.
I did a Bookish Thought post several weeks ago asking myself if reading a lot of romance novels is detrimental in any way to my dating life (you can read it here). I ultimately decided, that for me personally, reading romance novels didn’t have any kind of negative impact on my dating life.
Today (and recently) I started to think about how being a constant reader in general impacts my dating life. I tend to be a homebody/introvert who is perfectly fine staying at home and reading the weekend away.
While I will always be okay with that (obviously), I worry that being a reader and loving books is the only major thing that I can talk about or relate to with someone I’m dating. Especially if a guy I’m dating tends to be more social. I have a small group of girlfriends that formed right after I moved to my new state, but we also have past lives and friends and jobs that make for whatever reason make it hard for us to see each other more than once or twice a month. I have some people who I consider friends at work, but I’ve never been able to create any kind of transition to being friends outside of work too.
Being an introvert and a reserved person also makes it hard for me to go do things alone, even things that I really want to do. It’s something that I’m always trying to work on, but it’s always hard to follow through because it’s always easy to find a reason for not following through.
To make matters a little harder, I found a few articles that talk about how being an avid reader makes you more attractive to potential partners. I wrote a post about the benefits of deep reading a couple years ago that start the list of why dating a reader is so awesome. You can read it here.
I guess I’m not so worried about any effects on my personality or likability. I think I’m more worried about what it means that I put reading first before any other interests because it’s easy and comfortable. But you can only talk about a fiction book for so long.
Do you balance your passion for reading with other hobbies or social events? How does reading affect your dating life and/or relationship?
These are about reading and being a potential partner.
The Guardian’s Frequent readers make the best lovers, say dating-app users by Katy Guest
Electric Literature’s Reading Books Makes You Hotter (At Least According to a Dating App) by Nicholas Politan
These are about why you should date a reader.
Book Riot’s 7 Reasons Why You Should Date a Reader by Dana Rosette Pangan
eHarmony’s 15 Reasons to Date an Avid Reader